Healthy Balance, Healthy Life

Finish the Fat Talk Flu!

Posted on: August 12, 2010

“Your body is the most powerful instrument you will ever own.” – Baz Luhrman.

Treat it with care, nourish i, love it, accept it. You have innate intelligence that will guide you.

(From a note I found in a copy of Bethenny Frankel’s Skinny Girl Dish at Borders (which, btw, looked really good from what I read)

I’ve always avoided being around girls when the conversation turns to the topic of “I-look-so-fat-I-can’t-wear-anything-let-me-look-for-imperfections” and all its variations. Sure, I might look in the mirror and think how nice it’d be to have a sports illustrated swimsuit model’s body but I also recognize that that is impossible to attain. All of the pictures of models we see are retouched (see Huffinton post article on an Ann Taylor model) even though those models are super skinny and “perfect” to begin with! Furthermore, a lot of those models are most likely getting in that shape in an unhealthy way (kudos to those who do it the healthy way). Being overweight is unhealthy but so is being underweight.

Aside from “skinny”, we have to stop seeing our differences as imperfections. See them as parts of you that make you unique or symbols of the life you live. For example, my scars have stories. The one on my shin is from falling on a metal soccer cleat (ow!), a testament to my unharnessed high energy (and clumsiness!). My birth mark is just that, the mark of the miracle of life and my presence in this world.

Okay, okay, I’m getting kind of mushy now so I’ll stop. The moral of the story is we need to stop this negative talk! Mostly because the more we talk, the more we get this false impression that the subject of our conversation is important and meaningful. I started hanging out with a girl a few years back who lived her life by attacking her looks, talking herself down, and doubting that she looked good when she looked great! After spending time with her, I noticed that I started thinking the same way but applying it to  myself! This way of thinking is contagious! The fat talk consumed her and anyone she came into contact with. Sadly, I had to minimize my time with her to protect the health of my thoughts and eventually we just stopped being friends.

There are days when we aren’t feeling our best and we have some doubts. That’s normal. If you need to talk with a close friend about your feelings, that’s fine. The idea here isn’t to pretend we don’t have insecurities sometimes; the point is to stop making these thoughts a casual and usual subject of conversation.

Remember, fat talk is contagious so when you stop spreading it, others will be less likely to come down with the “fat talk flu”, and then they won’t spread it–and so on and so forth, you get the picture!

Finish the Fat Talk Flu!

Question: How do you deal with fat talk thoughts?

May be of Interest:

How to Put an end to “Fat Talk” – Self Magazine

Fat Talk – Healthy Tipping Point

Ann Taylor Website Glitch Reveals Un-Retouched Images – Huffington Post


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